Saturday, November 07, 2009

Howling

Crippled Wolf is sitting with his mother on a tree-shaded deck, beside the large pond behind the skilled nursing care center to which he moved her three weeks ago.

White Chinese GooseA fountain sprays in the middle of the pond, and three large white Chinese geese float nearby, watching intently for handouts.

This is not a scene Crippled Wolf had ever wanted to play. No one ever wants it.

“Part of my problem,” he tells himself, “is that I’ve been reading scenes like this almost since I started reading on my own.

“Books are full of death and dying.

“More to the point, I’ve had close friends die. I’ve watched a friend release his last breath.

"I think all of that created the illusion that I am used to dealing with death.”

He glances over his right shoulder toward the gently fluttering maple leaves. Sparkles of sunlight dance through the shadows.

“Till now I could keep the concreteness of death at one remove. Reading and writing and watching have given me lots of scripts for such a scene….

“But this is no scene. This is in my flesh, in my mother’s flesh.”

He looks back into his mother's dark, piercing eyes.

"I don't know if I can deal with my being here," she tells him.

"I know," he replies. "I don't know if I can either. None of us wanted this to happen."

They sit.

A blue jay calls their attention.

They sit.

The geese shriek out their horrible, grating hello.

"It's such an ugly voice," Mom says, "but they're beautiful birds."

"Yes."

Crippled Wolf and Walhydra have been balancing this grief between them for two months now, pretending that they can stabilize it, when they know that in reality each next moment changes the outer and inner forces at work.

"How can you just sit there?" Walhydra demands.

"How can I not?

“My human self cries out to change what is happening, to turn back the clock. I curl into a ball at night, crying for my mother, and then I howl when I remember that she cannot come to comfort me.

"Yet nothing changes what is happening. My animal self knows just to watch and wait."

"I hate it!"

Crippled Wolf nuzzles up against Walhydra. "Grouchy old lady."

"Articulate grouchy old lady," she says, sadly.

"There is that."

Red-bellied WoodpeckerA knock-knock to Crippled Wolf's left.

"Oh, look!" he says to his mother. "A woodpecker! See?"

"Yes. I see him!"

They sit.

Then, after a long pause, she says, “Look,” pointing behind him to the sparkle in the maple leaves.

He knows that, somehow, he needs to invite Death into the conversations he is having with his mother. He needs to do this while she is still lucid enough to talk about it…or at least to think about it.

It’s not a matter of what they should say to each other on the subject. It’s just that Death needs to be available in the conversation.

“I’m remembering…,” he begins. “I’m remembering when you used to have long distance calls with your mother during her last years.”

“Yes,” Mom says, brightening a bit. “We used to talk on Sunday afternoons.”

“Yes, I remember.”

They sit.

She notices a spent yellow balloon, caught in the low branches over the pond.

“Grandma didn’t like moving to nursing care, either,” Crippled Wolf ventures.

“No.”

“She was angry about it.”

“Yes.”

They sit.

They notice other things. All of this time, they have been holding hands.

They hold each other’s eyes for a long time.

She doesn’t nod, but something flickers in her eyes, as if she were nodding.

And so it is.

Bless├Ęd Be.

Wolf Howl

1 comment:

Cat Chapin-Bishop said...

Oh, DAMMIT, Mike. (And my own wolf stands beside you, and I am howling, too. Meanwhile, I just cry... and hold you in my heart, brother.)