Well, Walhydra and Hubby Jim are going the long way around, step by step, to make each other legal...no thanks DOMA and that wimpy, people-pleasing excuse for a liberal, Bill Clinton, who signed it.
Walhydra won't repeat her whole marriage rant, since you can find it here.
Even so, Walhydra says she resents having to find a lawyer, pay $600, and go through weeks of gyrations for two sets of six documents, in order to even approximate what any two heterosexual fools can do cheap with a license and a justice of the peace...even by accident.
Anyway,...yesterday morning, sometime around 10:30 am, Walhydra and JimJim met in front of their lawyer and two witnesses and each signed a Last Will and Testament, a Letter of Escrow Instruction, a Durable Power of Attorney for Property (and a backup, in case the designated attorney-in-fact is incapable of acting), a Health Care Surrogate Designation, and a Living Will.
Feeling a bit safer now, nonetheless, since they can take care of each other in hospital and inherit from each other, Walhydra says, "It still doesn't count as marriage."
She and Jim became a couple in 1985.
They were married under the care of their Quaker Meeting in 1994.
But they are still having to look for and plug loopholes, one by one, in order to protect each other as a family.
Feeling somewhat like the surly librarian she usually is, Walhydra instructs her readers to do their own research, for a change:
"Look up all the benefits that married couples get in your own municipality and state, as well as all the Federal benefits. Don't forget about all the retail discounts and give-aways and other special offers for married couples. Look it up!"
Meanwhile, Walhydra is happy. She and her Sweety are getting cuddlier by the minute.
And vacation calls.
Blessèd Be, despite it all.